Relationships are like fire, need to be kept burning, else they'll go out. To build a healthy relationship with your spouse, it is important that you reciprocate your partner's love and affection.
1. Remember the past!
Today.com suggests to rediscover why you fell in love with your partner; act like you did when you were first dating; do the things you used to do together, and see places you used to visit.
2. Put back the element of mystery and surprise.
Sometimes divulging every little detail about yourself is not being vulnerable. Knowing everything about each other is comfortable, but it’s no recipe for romance, says psychologist Harriet Lerner, author of Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up.
Try something together you’ve never done before. Passion comes from having new experiences.
3. Remember that you are a couple before being a Mom and Dad.
5 Ways to Bring The Spark Back To Your Relationship via kwout
As time pass by, relationships go through phases. If the relationship doesn't feel like it used to in terms of excitement or intensity, it doesn't mean you've fallen out of love; sometimes you just have to ignite your relationship and bring back the heat.
Sneaking in a little bit of `us' time while the kids are at school or playing outdoors will rekindle the romance.
Healthy relationships require spending real time together. Try to spend time with your partner to talk about your day, your feelings and your worries. Talk about things other than your children.
Using much of your time watching television and checking social media can be a hazardous distraction.
4. Pay attention to physical intimacy.
Sex is one of the things that keeps a marriage alive. It gives couples a way to have fun together and increases their emotional connection.
Find out how often married people are having sex at The Huffington Post.
5. Love yourself too.
Loving yourself will give you the confidence you need.
For Moms, put the sweatpants down and the lipstick on, because you need to make the effort for your spouse. For Dads, get dressed up for your partner.
If you think you need time for yourself, take space. According to MindBodyGreen, when we take space from the people we love, we inevitably long to be close to them again. Sometimes, you have to separate first to want to come back together. Keep in mind that fire needs air to burn.
6. If everything else fails, ask for help.
Find courage to reach out and ask for help. Consider the option of enlisting the help of a marriage counselor.